Narcissistic Tactics (It’s All Smoke & Mirrors)

Awesome article! I really needed that, having a really hard time with no one to talk to who can relate..thanks so much

I had (or still have?) a relationship with a covert narcissist girl. She is identical twin, and her sister shows more or less the same traits. I think this circumstance aggravates the situation. She dumped me early this year, and I don’t know if she’ll ever come back, but she’s using silent treatment and the hoovering tactics. Should I be happy or sad if she will?

We get a lot of research on narcissism and its harmful after effects. There has been said and written a lot about this disorder but there has been very less research on its treatment and recovery. We talk of sociopaths/narcissists living among us and they create a lot of havoc and chaos in families and communities. The government needs to take due consideration to help find out a reasonable recovery technique for narcissism. Since it is a ego problem so spirituality is the only remedy to it. But the hard fact lies that in this world of growing materialism and living life for the purpose of collecting only some materialistic wealth, it becomes a serious grave concern.

Reading that I am not crazy, and there are others that have lived the same hell I am living helps so much. I am trying to get away from the Narcissistic Man I unfortunately fell in love with. I feel so humiliated that I still feel love for this monster who is so mean and will turn his infidelities on me, I suffer for finding out he has lied and betrayed me. I’ve never felt so alone and devastated in my life. And I’m 44 by no means an idiot, so why is it so hard to walk away?
I’ve never experienced such sadness in my life.Help

I met mine 15 months ago. From the first night we met he told me n horrific lie. It involved his little girl. He is a foreigner. He was charming. Very attentive to all my needs. I was going through a separation from a 20 year marriage . I sold the house and moved in a rented house. He moved in right away never offered me rent. I had a sick sense all wasn’t well he would put on crocodile tears about his daughter whenever he wanted to distract any situation He told me hiis little girl had been killed I had a row 1 morning he went out and I decided to look in his emails something I would never dream of. There in front of my eyes a email from his young wife the one he always called a horrendous mother he emailed her saying he missed her and his daughter and to keep being a good mum and that they would be together soon in this country. I nearly threw up I waited for him to come back to my house then confronted him. Well I actually laughed in his face he said he had 2 daughters with the same name that they named the second child after the 1 who died . Crazy crazy I no he even said I was evil and that he would prove his daughter was dead by getting his mother to email the death certificates. Of course this never came as his family knew nothing of his lie. He would not back down I questioned myself I started to wonder if his daughter was actually dead. I emailed his wife as I was going mad trying to get the truth she emailed me back the next morning saying he left them both he won’t give her a divorce and he has a 15 year old son he abandoned in Germany when he was a baby. He is so sick he even showed me a picture once of his son who is the double of him and said he was his brothers son. On the morning I got the email of his wife he said she was lieing there daughter was alive and the craz bitch wanted to split us up??? Then his sister and mother found out about the evil lie his sister apologised to me by message saying she cannot justify why he did it and that he never admits his mistakes and she made an excuse saying this is how he deals with things going wrong in his life by making up stories?? There’s so much more Stories I cannot put in this 1 message he said he had been shot in a car jack and the bullet went through him and killed his little girl in the back seat. Sick beyond belief.

Hi guys.
My name is Damien. I myself am a 26 year old male Narcissist. I find myself looking for help because i myself have done some very hurtful things to a number of people. I really only commented because all i ever find is hate speeches and how to deal with someone such as myself. I am looking for help from all corners of the web as i found therapy did not help me very well and to this day all i find is. “the abusive narcissist” “7 signs your dating a narcissist” “Narcissists are evil”.

I don’t think of myself as evil or abusive. I think of myself of having too much judgement and morality on the “bad” side of the scales. I have over the past 3 or so years come to realize that through childhood neglect and lack of a father figure (heroin addict) that the time i developed extreme narcissistic personality disorder was a complete fabricated wall of confidence, arrogance and learnt ways to make girls crazy about me. I was bullied heavily in school and with no father or should i say a father there but quite literally looked past us and a very very hard school life eventually crafted me into something quite unbearable after spending enough time with me to see through the cracks of my built up “over confidence”. Just thought i would drop a message in just so you know that i may have done some pretty unacceptable things but if you stripped away the only personality i have left and in some ways truly believe is to be my real personality you would probably find a very pathetic laughable underneath.

I really want to add that i don’t and maybe i can’t account for every narcissist when i say this but i don’t feel the whole bullets points in this post is very accurate and i before anyone says i have no idea what it is like. Seeing it first hand and seeing the true hurt and pain caused to people by my own actions is close enough to be ashamed of it.

Ultimately help is what i am looking for or at least just so some people understood that a narcissist suffers extreme self loath and so if you have escaped someone like it just know you will find the right person and that they won’t only be unhappy but since whatever young age to whatever old age they possibly are among the most unhappy people to walk the earth.

Hope my comment doesn’t offend as it is just a snippet from a narcissistic side also since no where gives help but only criticism.

I have written here before about the ex that lied betrayed deceived me and used me until like that I had nothing left even though it has been over for exactly three years now and we both moved on to other relationships recently I was told by a friend they had seen him someplace and for some reason and unstoppable indescribable force of emotions including raging anger and deep sadness flooded over me tears actually came to my eyes upon hearing is ending scene at a store a fleeting story that lasted all of a minute ever since that day I thought of them and it’s driving me insane because of what a horrible person is an old the horrors he caused me and yet here and still regretting my behavior wondering what could have been different wishing things didn’t turn out the way that had how normal is it to think of someone after this much time has passed and after we both moved on I couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me this morning something I couldn’t shake and I realized soon enough that it was the anniversary of our break up which was one of the very most devastating days of my life and ashamed to say….. so now here I am obsessing over something I can’t change over a narcissist who nearly wrecked my lifwith am consumed with the idea of revenge for what he did to me and consumed with the idea that after all I have suffered and he suffered nothing I am consumed with knowing that he’s out there may be enjoying life living all I’ve suffered a lot of the consequences of our relationship.