A Sociopath Exposes the Narcissist – (Part 1/3)

narcissist-sociopathIn my opinion, there is are no differences between a narcissist and a sociopath. Both follow the exact same pathological relationship agenda and can be equally as evil to the people who love them. That being said, it has become apparent to me that there are certain self-diagnosed sociopaths who beg to differ with my way of thinking. To this pompous bunch, being labeled as a narcissist is…well…kinda like an expert being labeled as an amateur and the debate, as you can imagine, can get quite heated.

This group of sociopaths/narcissists (S/N) that I refer to hangs out on a blog/forum that, for the purpose of this article, will have to remain nameless. The reason for this omission is not because I don’t enjoy the site because I do (in a sick, “puts-knots-in-my-stomach”  sort of way), but rather because I’d prefer it not to appear as if I’m promoting these people, that’s all.

Now, before I get to the point of this post series, let me say that this website is run by an anonymous female sociopath (FS) whose gender was also anonymous until just this year when she finally self-published a book and really couldn’t hide it anymore. It seems to me, though, that there are still those S/Ns who regularly visit the site that aren’t so sure…so who knows (and who cares, really)? This FS (as I’ll call her/him) writes the majority of the posts (guests write the others) and what she writes about is being a sociopath. That’s it. On the right side of the home page is a list of about 40 topics of which there are at least 5 – 10 articles per topic available to read.

Believe me when I tell you that this is some scary shit. If you ever wanted to know what a narcissist is thinking when it comes to sex, cheating, relationships, having no conscience, lying, manipulation, porn, why they can leave you in the blink of an eye, why they come back, what they think of us (a.k.a. empaths – meaning “those who have empathy), all that….well, this is an appropriate place to start.Now, how much of the content on this site is contrived (e.g. writing what they think empaths want to hear), I have no clue – maybe some, maybe none – but it makes for some interesting and very distressing reading. Not only are the site moderator and guest writers sociopaths, so, it appears, are the majority of the commentators that show up to elaborate, debate, and commiserate with each other. And these are (or at least they appear to be) some highly intelligent sociopaths who, I might add, are suspiciously wonderful writers. Every last one, in fact. So, again, what’s contrived and what isn’t, who’s to say? And if all that weren’t enough, the comments are unmoderated (per an actual warning on the site), so anything goes – and, believe me, it does. Much of the content is sickening, of course, because not a single word on this site is what anybody coming to this site would care to or ever want to hear. Or do we?

When-love-is-a-lieI thought, for this post series, I’d do something a little different and offer up some actual blog/article content from this website to complement my topic of the hour – compartmentalization. Compartmentalization – aside from being a long, twenty-letter word – is what narcissists do inside their twisted heads so that they don’t have to give a shit about us before, during, and after the Discard.  A narcissist’s victim is always left wondering how this person could possibly do what he does to a someone who so obviously loves them and has stood by them. These and other similar unanswered questions make up the nucleus of our heartbreak. Narcissists, of course, know this and the intention of the discard (in the way that they do it) is to break our hearts like we’ve never had them broken before….to cause us the most pain possible….to make sure that “moving on” is wiped off our emotional To-Do List for years to come.

Compartmentalization is how a narcissist or sociopath justifies evil actions and silent treatments and lying and infidelity and, according to the aforementioned FS and her followers,  it’s actually a very organized process. What I am going to show you in A Sociopath Exposes a Narcissist (How They Do It) – Part 2 comes right from the horse’s mouth and it will make your skin crawl.

We’re going to use the words of a self-diagnosed sociopath to expose the narcissist’s game strategy.


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  • Kendra

    August 4, 2017 at 7:40 am Reply

    Pretty sure I’m dating a n/s. Been a year & still doing research to gain clarity (& sanity) if nothing else. Love the articles

    • Zari Ballard

      August 7, 2017 at 4:30 am Reply

      Thank you, Kendra…I’m glad you’re here:)

  • Carrie

    February 3, 2016 at 7:05 pm Reply

    There are a few sites like you described I’ve come across . But only one female name I have seen so far. Who is open and admits to being a sociopath. I gave to agree with you . Pathetic is a word that comes to mind and I also feel it’s laughable the way they go on trying to tell us what they think we want to hear, which is nothing really. I don’t want to hear anything from a sociopath or a narcissist. Do you? I’m over it. Life really is too short.

  • Rachael Meghan Peterson

    December 4, 2015 at 9:57 am Reply

    I was wondering if my boyfriend has a personality disorder he has in the past looked up porn and does not and refuses to communicate with me about financially raising children and he keeps changing his mind consently about marriage and he even got our daughter taken away and kidnapped and family abuducted by my evil and pathological lieing and abusive parents who adopted me when I was a baby and neglected his children and refuses to belive that is true.Plus he makes me lock myself inside all day and tells me that I should get a job but how can I do that when my parents who adopted prevented me from working and refused to let me grow up and this is financially his fault for not giving a crap about his children and that’s why know I being illegally prevented from working but he’ll never understand this because he financially gave up on me and our daughter financially anyway and never understands me.Also he is very controlling and gets mad and very angry if I go outside and yell and scream and hit me and shovves me against the wall and I was even pregnant at the time also but he didn’t know that at all at this time though if if I do go outside alone without him being here so how does he expect me to get a job if I can’t go outside alone when he’s not here and there’s no time after he gets of work everything is closed by then and he niches,yells,and screams and says hes to busy on the weekends to keep driving somewhere to get job application forms also so how does he expect me to get a job?I’m broke,angry,hungery,confused,stressed,childless but we have children he doesn’t give a crap about but says he loves and misses only one of our children because he doesn’t know at all about my second pregnancy at all,alone,scared,worried,feel violated,hurt,and many many more feelings he barely gives a crap about.He also has terrible outbursts of anger and frustration and changes his mind all the time.Also he has terrible communication problems and hates to talk to me at all.I was wondering if my man has a personality disorder?

    • Zari Ballard

      December 21, 2015 at 11:40 pm Reply

      Hi Rachael,

      Honestly, I’m not going to answer your question does my man has a personality disorder? Please re-read your post to me and you’ll have your answer. When I read stories like yours, whether or not he has a “personality disorder” becomes a moot point. Does it even matter? HE’S SICK IN THE HEAD. Grab your children and go to the nearest shelter when he’s not looking. First, have him served with a retraining order so that you have something legal in your hand in case he shoes up. Go get some services to help yourself. You are NOT incapable of working. There are plenty of single mothers out there who struggle to support themselves but at least they’re trying. Please don’t give up on yourself because of this bully. Pack a couple of bags for you and the kids and run for it. ANY PLACE YOU END UP IS BETTER THAN WHERE YOU ARE NOW. There are shelters, food stamps, job services…..do what you have to do and don’t let anyone tell him where you are.

      You don’t have any other options, girl, you really don’t. You’re going to have to bolt to begin life over and to provide your children a better life. Please let me know how you do…

      Zari xo

    • Carrie

      February 3, 2016 at 7:18 pm Reply

      I know it’s really hard to deal with things once you finally have the real truth about someone you love. You will probably be in denial on and off until you have had enough and then you can start to move on an heal eventually once you take your life your heart, your mind back into your own hands (with God’s help even better) and the self respect you deserve and once you start to finally move forward you will get to a point where instead of feeling dismayed and victimized the people who treated you so awful and targeted you , will start to be laughable. Their tactics will be laughable. It will be okay not to feel any empathy or sympathy for their bullshit anymore. Just keep that for yourself though you don’t want to invoke anger in them if they try to get back in your life. If you have to have a person with a major personality disorder that can’t be fixed or changed like sociopaths and narcissists you can still get to this point, it just might take longer. Hang in there and keep your heads up. Feel free knowing you are NOT problem and it’s NOT your fault so stop beating yourself up.

  • Vittoro

    July 9, 2015 at 2:53 am Reply


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