Comments on: Narcissists & the Cell Phone Game

By: Kristen W bell

Kristen W bell — Sun, 25 Feb 2024 13:45:38 +0000

My ex was a narcissist. Now it makes perfect sense why he had this extra work phone. This man went so far to tell me he was a correctional officer and worked two full time jobs and they showered and changed clothes at work

By: Kristen W bell

Kristen W bell — Sun, 25 Feb 2024 13:44:57 +0000

By: Shannon

Shannon — Mon, 21 Aug 2023 16:23:58 +0000

I was subjected to years of this similar type of abuse by the father of my child

By: Zari Ballard

Zari Ballard — Fri, 26 Jul 2019 08:16:35 +0000

In reply to Cecea.

Hi Cecea,

Wow…that is just WRONG of her to do that! You must put your foot down, girl! It’s more than annoying. It is downright dangerous and no mom should be doing that. Only a NARC mom would!

By: Cecea

Cecea — Wed, 29 May 2019 06:03:08 +0000

My mom is a covert narcissist and is giving out my number foolishly to people online that I never met before in my life..omg is annoying! Been going on since I was in high school (age 16 ) at time.. 21 now, been trying to avoid this but it’s stuck in my memories for life.. I suspect of my mom on so many levels..

By: Kathy

Kathy — Tue, 26 Feb 2019 13:38:13 +0000

My married narcissist dumped me constantly. He had a pay as you go phone to call me from. 2 weeks ago he ended things yet again saying this time it is over. I have no contacted him but today I decided to call the cellphone and it was off. I guess he didn’t pay for more minutes and let it just end. I was so hurt that the phone is off but after reading this I realize it must be a part of his game. I don’t know if he is finished or not at this point but it completely killed my stomach that the phone is off.

By: Zari Ballard

Zari Ballard — Fri, 01 Feb 2019 01:42:50 +0000

In reply to Sanjuana. Oh it is SO true. The Cell Phone Game keeps a narcissist's many worlds from colliding!

By: Sanjuana

Sanjuana — Mon, 28 Jan 2019 16:39:53 +0000

I don’t believe it, but it’s true ed very thing makes scense now

By: Carla Norwood

Carla Norwood — Sun, 30 Dec 2018 23:50:56 +0000

What an eye opener, this is the first time I have read about the narc and their phone. I suspected as much, now I know for sure. I just want to scream right now.!

By: David

David — Sat, 01 Dec 2018 06:19:56 +0000

well its been along time. since I have been on here. I have survived that 6-month with shocking after effects relationship with an overt somatic malignant narcissist only to be “rescued” mid-stream and spent 3 years care-giving for a best-friend turned lover/fiancee covert inverted histrionic narcissist. The break up occurring soon after setting the wedding date for this December. Definitely the most hurtful experience of my life and the gift that keeps on giving. I know you know what I mean. yes, I know I was blessed for it to end even with a major explosion and court allegations I survived. But the Facebook/social media and church friends and family smear campaign and flying monkeys and death threats have been constant companions for these past almost four months (as of the 6th of December).
Please do keep me updated on email and know there are still good guys out there who get brutally victimized but hope to recover with our values and loving attitudes intact. I appreciate your support an understanding as only those who have been victimized by a narcissist or narcopath, male or female, can ever truly empathize.
D.

By: Yours friendly

Yours friendly — Sun, 23 Sep 2018 09:08:01 +0000

Keep off contact. Pray about it. God will heal your heart. Guard your heart.
the best. Y’all strong,y’all worth it.
Don’t be fooled twice.
Seek not revenge. Our God is just.
Christ for all nations and all people!
Accept the LORD to save you.

By: Zari Ballard

Zari Ballard — Thu, 07 Jun 2018 21:26:28 +0000

In reply to Deb Codding. You are getting on my last nerve. You don't have any comments here so just stop coming to visit and you won't have to worry about it.

By: Villegas

Villegas — Fri, 11 May 2018 14:29:49 +0000

My wife calls !e a narcissist I give her my paswpass yes idis wrong in the past but gave her !y word I never been disloyal to her but whn I give her my phone to check it she goes on app that I don’t use then goes to the history and says iwas on it itry to explain to her she was just on it but once she makes her middle up there no talking to her I gave her my FB paswpass the next time I logged in I was on all these sites I not that kind orf person but why does she do these things and say it me is this a narcissist to

By: deborah grant

deborah grant — Thu, 10 May 2018 09:52:27 +0000

ive been w/ex narc for 10 years… of course w/many silent treatments… he’s 64 yrs old n is now w/ n 30 year old… wud always come back a few months later… i had no clue what he was doing.. i had a full plate myself n am not a needy kind of woman… i walk’d away w/no problem… with held everything from me the last 2 years but didn’t want me to leave him… i finally caught on bc he was being so mean/hateful to me for nothing… staying away from me completely… always meeting her or on the phone with her… staying n a drunken stupor.. when i caught him he beat me up … choked me n kicked me …. had thrown me off his porch years earlier for no reason at all… hurt me bad.. cud have killed me…been gone for 4 months… he wished me a happy birthday 6 days after i left… i didn’t reply! has txted me monthly to threaten me about coming to get my cats or else… they are not my cats.. tried to be nice at first… im not interested so now he’s mean… he is a very evil man… scary how he will just jump on me out of no where.. he tortured me for 4 months b4 i left… i cud never sleep next to the devil again… he kept trying to get me out n the woods late at nite with a shotgun claiming he was shooting wild animals… i didn’t fall for it…i felt i was gonna die if i didn’t leave… therapy isn’t helping! grrrrrrrr!

By: Deb Codding

Deb Codding — Mon, 07 May 2018 20:49:50 +0000

Just remove ALL my damn comments form this forum please .

By: Zari Ballard

Zari Ballard — Tue, 24 Apr 2018 01:21:07 +0000

In reply to Hailey.

Hi Hailey….oh yes, the two-phone/old number tactic! I know it well! lol…..xo

By: Deb

Deb — Mon, 16 Apr 2018 20:19:58 +0000

The above comment by “Deb Codding” was posted by Kim Barwick. She is welcome to post her thoughts using her own name. It is understandable that she is angry and bitter, but harassing the women surrounding the man she can’t have in any legitimate way by posting comments or making fake profiles or calling/texting people representing herself as another person is not “telling the truth” but playground bully behavior. If she is truly happy with the man as she claims, she would instead, invest that energy into enjoying living in the moment and not worry about what he does when he CHOOSES not to be with her.

By: Hailey

Hailey — Mon, 26 Mar 2018 19:38:05 +0000

Oh how true. My ex husband use to text women behind my back in bed and then act like I was crazy when I caught him. He literally couldn’t be without that damn thing for more than half an hour….And we all know why. Not to mention the need for 2 phones with an old number he had had for the past 9 years….hmmm easy access to old flames.

By: Zari Ballard

Zari Ballard — Thu, 08 Mar 2018 05:58:42 +0000

In reply to Deb Codding. Oh they can keep it straight alright. For a narc, life is all about what they can get away with.....

By: Deb Codding

Deb Codding — Sun, 04 Mar 2018 06:29:10 +0000

My ex had numerous phones. And private chat apps on each and some like facebook that would show when friends were near so he know where they were so he would not encounter one gf while with another or me. Or find them when they were trying to avoid so he could hoover. Different for each follower I guess. snapchat app that does not save conversations when sending pornografic pictures. How the hell he kept thbem ALL straight amazes me to this day.

By: Zari Ballard

Zari Ballard — Sun, 04 Mar 2018 00:37:30 +0000

In reply to Mary Mazza.

Hi Mary,

I beg to differ on that one. If my ex had said, “Hey look, sometimes, if I’m doing things I don’t want you to know about, I’m not going to answer the phone. I might even tell you later that I lost my phone or I was out of minutes. I might even change my number if I have to stay away for any length of time but don’t worry because when I come back to you, I’ll change it again. This is all okay right? Can we agree on this?” I WOULD HAVE SAID NO. The whole POINT of the Cell Phone Game is that only one party is in agreement and/or knows exactly what is going on. And since it’s a game where the rules are based entirely on lies and plausible deniability, it can take a very, very long time for the party NOT in agreement to wrap their head around the fact that this kind of game even exists.

Zari

By: Diane

Diane — Sat, 03 Mar 2018 23:43:56 +0000

In reply to Nate. Hi Nate People do what they want to do. Save your energy for someone who can reciprocate ...you deserve no less.

By: Mary Mazza

Mary Mazza — Sun, 18 Feb 2018 18:56:33 +0000

The game can only be played if all parties agree to play.

By: Marj

Marj — Sat, 03 Feb 2018 13:28:04 +0000

In reply to Michelle. All sounds familiar to me.. i was stuck for 6yrs. It was very hard to.. i cried an ocean! I was blind and everything.. fight so hard to keep a unworthy relationship. But people, your the only one who can help yourself. Once you realized your worth, there is no turning back. I am so glad i was able to run with this feelings.. stress free, worry free.. and more time for myseld.. specially to love yourself.

By: Zari Ballard

Zari Ballard — Sat, 15 Jul 2017 00:57:42 +0000

In reply to Mary.

Hi Mary,

I don’t know if he’s a narc or not but who cares? He’s a creep and a weirdo, that’s for sure, and as soon as you mentioned that he “smelled” and basically blackmailed you (“Boo!”) for pictures, that did it for me! You don’t need a label to confirm what you already know to be true and, sorry, but you know all that you need to know about this gross controlling creature. Yikes! I hope you have saved your family…you don’t explained what happened there but I hope that you did. Don’t feel humiliated…consider it a lesson learned, forgive yourself and go forward. You can’t take it back and self-blame after the fact is non-productive in my eyes. I wish you happiness, sister….

Zari xo