So, why can’t you get over the narcissist? Why can’t you let it go? This person is so particularly awful, why can’t you kick him or her to the curb and never look back? More and more, this is becoming the cry of those I speak with and I do have answers but I’m not
Breaking Up
Breaking Up With a Narcissist: It’s Easier Than You Think
Breaking up with a narcissist is never easy but, with the right intention and the willingness to let a few things go, it certainly can be done. The good news is that the “rules” of breaking up with a narcissist are completely different than the rules that apply to even the most dysfunctional of “normal”
Narcissists & The Baffling Break-Up: Q & A (Part 1)
I now provide email counseling via Q & A and I felt that my exchange below with a male victim of a female narcissistic partner would be helpful to everyone. As we know, while the female narcissist may be worse than her counterpart, the basic narcissistic behaviors of these people is amazingly similar. The exchange
Narcissist Abuse: Getting a Grip on Relationship Amnesia
However you may feel about the narcissist in your life, it’s important to know that he/she didn’t get this way overnight. Our brain often refuses to believe this. Every day, I hear from both women and men who adamantly insist that they were blind-sided by certain narcissistic behaviors. The source of their pain is a
Our Post-Narc Life & The Angst of Emotional Residue
So many of us who successfully move on from a break-up with a narcissist still, for various reasons, feel what can best be described as an emotional residue. It’s like an icky feeling that we can’t quite seem to wash off no matter how hard we try or how long this person has been out
Why a Narcissist’s “Break-up” Never Seems Real
Narcissistic partners may discard us but that doesn’t necessarily mean that we will feel broken-up. Narcissists may give us the never-ending silent treatment but that doesn’t mean we feel any more disconnected. In fact, it’s quite the contrary. The more a narcissist “breaks-up” with us, the more irrationally connected we feel to this person…sometimes to
Breaking Our Narc Addiction: The Truth About Suffering
Mentally letting go of the narcissist is never going to happen as fast as we’d like unless we starting taking credit for recovery time served. If we did that…if we realized that there are phases to the suffering post-break-up with a narcissist and that, for the most part, we’ve moved through them successfully without even
Does the Narcissist Miss Me?
Whether it’s during a break-up or a silent treatment (a break-up in disguise), we always want to know what the narcissist is feeling? Does he miss me? Does he think about me? Does he know he made a mistake? Will he ever know that he made a mistake? We obsess about the question of how
Debunking the Narcissist’s Smear Campaign
When we dump a narcissist or a narcissist dumps us, one of the first things that they do (to make themselves feel better) is embark on a smear campaign. Somehow, running a smear campaign provides the narcissist justification as to why we were never worthy of their presence to begin with. By talking smack around
Will the Narcissist Come Back? Maybe…but then what?
The narcissist only returns again and again to ensure that you never move on from the pain he has caused you – and this is the ONLY reason. If you remember nothing else from what I tell you, you must remember that. The sociopath and narcissist will hoover for no other reason than to get