So, why can’t you get over the narcissist? Why can’t you let it go? This person is so particularly awful, why can’t you kick him or her to the curb and never look back? More and more, this is becoming the cry of those I speak with and I do have answers but I’m not
Articles with the Tag narcissistic personality
What Exactly IS a Narcissist Anyway?
Like a good portion of the Baby Boomer population, I grew up with the understanding that that the word ‘narcissistic’ described someone who was ‘conceited’…a person, male or female, who not only obsessed over personal appearance but gleefully wallowed in it…a lover of mirrors, a groomer. If only it were that simple. Clearly, in just the
Narcissists, Lies & the Great Relationship Reset
Narcissists love to press the Great Relationship Reset Button. In pressing this imaginary button, the narcissist gets to waltz back into the relationship without any repercussions or consequences and just pick up from the point they left off. During the course of our time with the narc, we actually become used to this reset and
Narcissists & The Substance Abuse Excuse
Let’s talk about narcissists and addiction since we tend to give narcissists a free pass on many things…alcohol, drugs, cheating…because the poor things just can’t help it. As usual, I have my own perhaps unconventional theory about this but, believe me, it’s taken me a few years to come to it and I base it
Narcissist Abuse & the Torment of Cognitive Dissonance
By definition, cognitive dissonance is the psychological discomfort a person feels when he or she holds conflicting beliefs about something simultaneously. When we’re involved with a narcissist, cognitive dissonance is a psychological state that keeps us clinging to a narcissistic partner even when we know he/she is completely incapable of ever loving us. In other
Narcissists Manage Down Our Relationship Expectations
The narcissist will, over time, manage down our expectations of the relationship so that we expect less and less and he gets away with more and more. This is one of the most powerful weapons in the narcissistic arsenal and it provides the narcissist (male or female) the most rewards. In fact, the narcissist personality
Be (Narcissist) Free from Unhealthy Relationships
Breaking free from a narcissist is exceedingly difficult – more so than breaking away from any other type of toxic relationship. I can give you tips all day on how to do it but sometimes it takes an objective source to hit the nail on the head. Below is a copy of an article that
Narcissistic Chaos – Creating Turmoil on Purpose
The narcissistic lover with a narcissistic personality will create chaos and turmoil on a regular basis (and on purpose) to keep you in a heightened state of anxiety. He/she will do this even when things are good – and especially when things are good – so that you least expect the kick to the curb.
Narcissistic Tactics (It’s All Smoke & Mirrors)
Everything a narcissist/sociopath says or does is a trick of smoke and mirrors – a narcissistic ploy – intended to distract from the reality of what he’s really up to. If you pay careful attention instead of reacting to his/her behaviors, you can turn these ploys into your advantage. Many of us already know that
Why a Narcissist Creates Chaos
From Zari Ballard’s book, When Love Is a Lie: Without chaos, the narcissist has nothing. The more chaos a narcissist creates and projects upon you, the more you suffer and the more in control he becomes. The more in control the N becomes, the more he’s able to manage down your expectations and get away