So, why can’t you get over the narcissist? Why can’t you let it go? This person is so particularly awful, why can’t you kick him or her to the curb and never look back? More and more, this is becoming the cry of those I speak with and I do have answers but I’m not
Articles with the Tag breaking up with a narcissist
Breaking Up With a Narcissist: It’s Easier Than You Think
Breaking up with a narcissist is never easy but, with the right intention and the willingness to let a few things go, it certainly can be done. The good news is that the “rules” of breaking up with a narcissist are completely different than the rules that apply to even the most dysfunctional of “normal”
Historical Rejection: Why the Narcissist Gives Us Up
I think that when a narcissist discards us, one of the reasons we wait for him to return (aside from the fact that he’s conditioned us to do so) is because we just can’t fathom the fact that he could actually give us up. And that’s what he does – he gives us up. We
Narcissists, Lies & the Great Relationship Reset
Narcissists love to press the Great Relationship Reset Button. In pressing this imaginary button, the narcissist gets to waltz back into the relationship without any repercussions or consequences and just pick up from the point they left off. During the course of our time with the narc, we actually become used to this reset and
Narcissists & The Baffling Break-Up: Q & A (Part 1)
I now provide email counseling via Q & A and I felt that my exchange below with a male victim of a female narcissistic partner would be helpful to everyone. As we know, while the female narcissist may be worse than her counterpart, the basic narcissistic behaviors of these people is amazingly similar. The exchange
Narcissist Abuse: Getting a Grip on Relationship Amnesia
However you may feel about the narcissist in your life, it’s important to know that he/she didn’t get this way overnight. Our brain often refuses to believe this. Every day, I hear from both women and men who adamantly insist that they were blind-sided by certain narcissistic behaviors. The source of their pain is a
The Narcissistic Partner is a Pretender Extraordinaire
Since the narcissist is unable to feel true human emotion (except for, perhaps, rage), he has, throughout life, learned to mimic the emotions he needs to get exactly what he wants. He is a pretender extraordinaire…an emotional impersonator…..and it’s no wonder we fall for The Lie because this person is really very, very good at
Our Post-Narc Life & The Angst of Emotional Residue
So many of us who successfully move on from a break-up with a narcissist still, for various reasons, feel what can best be described as an emotional residue. It’s like an icky feeling that we can’t quite seem to wash off no matter how hard we try or how long this person has been out
“A Bittersweet Good-By” (A Poem to a Narcissist)
Narcissistic partners suck – we know that. No matter what we do or say, they can’t love us and we can’t fix them. Inevitably, the good-by is bittersweet. From one silent treatment to the next, amidst all the hoovering and narcissistic discards, we hope and grieve and hope and grieve until our hearts have no
Surviving the Narcissist: A Reflective Q & A
As most of you know, when we become involved with narcissistic partners, our lives become completely interchangeable. The shock of seeing ourselves in the stories of others is usually our first “aha” moment and it forever changes us. My story becomes your story becomes her story becomes his story. As my first book When Love